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Abused or just a needy partner?

by Anonymous
(England)

So when is a needy partner an abuser? Having just answered yes to 20 out of the 25 "am i abused" questions, i think i can say i am being controlled.

So knowing this, why do i need her to end it, to let me go? Why do i find it so hard to end it and stick to it? Maybe because she changes her tune from nasty and cruel to loving and gentle. I am an optimist, always believing it will change.

My kids have only just found out about the abuse. I had her arrested last night for hurting me; wasn't i brave!! She is sorry and wants to try again. Everyone says "tell her to go", so why do i feel sorry I had her arrested when it was me who was hurt?

Am i mad?




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Jul 11, 2011
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by: Anonymous

ur a nice person. Ur hurt, u just help urself.
Mar 18, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Yes, you are (so to speak) "mad". Staying in such a negative, dysfunctional relationship as bad as it is, seems "normal" to you because you have been in it for such a long time.

When you decide you truly and genuinely WANT to change your life to a healthier one, not just for yourself but for your children as well, REMOVE YOURSELF PHYSICALLY FROM HER PRESENCE-MOVE OUT.

The longer you are away, as the days turn to weeks and the weeks turn to months, and so on - your eyes and heart will see clearly. You will no longer be wondering around in a fog-like condition.

Make it your earnest resolve to change your "program". It is only then that you will be FREE and truly able to LIVE the life you deserve. Remember, YOU ARE WORTHY.

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