Confused

by Christal
(Alabama)

My boyfriend and i have been together for a little over three years. Our relationship started off with him disagreeing with me going out with my friends and family, like to the clubs or jus about anywhere, cuz he wanted me to stop drinking and liming. He said he didn't like that stuff. So i stopped all of it cuz i was afraid of losing him.

He has anger issues. He gets angry if i can't take his calls. But it has stopped now after we had some major arguments about it. My parents and his got involved in it as well. They agreed that he can't behave that way, and that he shouldn't have a problem if i'm with my family, especially when i go out with my family. So that problem has kinda died out.

However, lately i still feel like he has no respect for me. Am i encouraging his attitude, am i the reason he lies about trivial things like his money or building his home? He lies about it to me, as if he thinks i won't find out.

Another thing is he can't make love to me. I was married before him and i think maybe that's why he's uncomfortable with me. He keeps saying he'd be different, but he's not. Then he tries turning it on me by saying he didn't think i wanted to make love and that's why he couldn't perform. But he's quite comfortable with me doing other things for him.

I don't like how he cusses at me when he's angry. He screams and shouts, has NO PATIENCE at times when i'm talking about things i don't like. I feel like he's so ignorant and stubborn.

I want him to show me love and care and respect, to show me he wants to make me happy. He'd do anything to see me happy, cuz he loves me me. I want him to make love to me so i'd feel closer to him. i feel like he's just there in his comfort zone and isn't trying; like he knows he has me and that's it.

Am i asking for too much? i wanna feel special to him. please help me.......