Controlling girlfriend? Help!
by Yoyo 9927
Me & my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years now. everything was perfect to begin with, until I messed up one time. ever since then, every argument we have she brings up what I did. I messed up at the start of the relationship but she still brings it up to this day, nearly 3 years later.
She hates it when I'm not with her or if i'm with my friends but it's always different when she's with her friends. It's like I'm not allowed to do anything but she is. but if I tell her she just goes mad and argues for days and brings up the past. She holds so many grudges and never forgets anything I've done wrong.
I really don't know what to do anymore. I think we both acknowledge that our relationship is coming to an end but she always blames me for everything. She always verbally abuses me and I've had enough.
I just don't know what to do and how to end this. She has no trust towards me at all. she just thinks this relationship is a game because since the day that I messed up (at the start), all she does is try and get back at me, just trying to score points and 'make me feel how she feels'.
Please help!
Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist
418 Stump Rd., Montgomeryville, PA 18936
215-813-8633
If you would like to receive the Couples Guide Newsletter containing articles on relationships, please sign up below.
Visit The Relationship Forum to get and give advice on your relationship issues.
If you're struggling with your relationship, this is the place to talk about it!
Our counselors will answer your questions.
And you, our readers, can offer advice from your experience.
You always maintained your impartiality with us. You encouraged Rita to be more assertive in stating what she wanted to get from your counseling sessions, as well as what she wanted to get from the relationship. You taught both of us better communication between ourselves, which lead to an emotional comfort level between us that didn't exist before. You took control of the direction of the session if things were not moving along. Thanks so much for helping us." Rita and Mark |
