Are You Being Abused?
Take This
Healthy Relationship Quiz
And Find Out.

Most people think that "abuse" means physical abuse. But there is also emotional and mental abuse that make a relationship unhealthy. This Healthy Relationship Quiz was developed by the Santa Clara University Wellness Center to help women (and also men) decide if they are in an unhealthy and abusive relationship.

Take this quiz and see where you stand in your relationship.

1. Do you feel afraid to speak your mind, express how you feel or ask for something you need?

2. Does your partner tell you are "stupid", "crazy", or "inadequate" when you disagree?

3. Does your partner make fun of your ideas or opinions?

4. Is your partner bossy and/or try to control every detail in your relationship?

5. Is your partner extremely demanding and jealous?

6. Do you often feel guilty and second-guess your choices in friends, social activities, jobs, etc. because of your partner's negative comments about these choices?

7. Are you afraid of your partner's temper, feel like you walk on eggshells, and/or are constantly monitoring what you say and do as an attempt to avoid making him/her angry?

8. Do you find yourself making excuses for your partner and justifying his/her actions to others?

9. Do you feel more "free" to be yourself when he/she isn't around?

10. Does your partner throw or break things when angry?

11. Does your partner try to control where you go and what you do?

12. Does your partner pressure you to engage in sexual activities that you are uncomfortable with and put you down if you refuse?

13. Does your partner threaten to kill or hurt him/herself if you have a differing opinion, try to end the relationship, or do something they disapprove of?

14. Does your partner try to make you feel guilty for having a "life" (i.e. friends, interests) apart from the relationship?

15. Does your partner criticize your family and friends and ask you to stop seeing them?

16. Do you feel that you have changed, lost touch with who you are, or become someone else in order to be with your partner?

17. Have your friends or family expressed concern about your relationship and/or your well-being?

18. Does your partner know how to make you feel bad (i.e., what buttons to push) and use it often to hurt you?

19. Have you lost touch with your friends, and only hang out with your partner's friends?

20. Does your partner try to control you with anger and guilt, or lash out when you don't do exactly what he or she wants?

21. Has your partner ever hit, slapped, punched, shoved, grabbed or shook you?

22. Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you, take important things away, or leave you?

23. Has your partner ever called you names, put you down, insulted you, and/or embarrassed you in front of others?

24. Do you feel like you never get anywhere when you try to communicate?

25. Do you spend large amounts of time preoccupied with what you've said or how it's interpreted?

If you answered "yes" to 3 or more questions in this Healthy Relationship Quiz, you are experiencing signs of relationship abuse. Help is available with a relationship counselor.


Have You Ever Been Abused
Or in An Unhealthy Relationship?

Here's where to share your story of abuse.
Or perhaps give advice to others.
It may help you or someone else struggling
in an unhealthy relationship.

(Please don't use identifying names as these will be edited out.)

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Read What Others Have Said
About Unhealthy Relationships

Click on the links below to read stories and comments about abusive relationships and what to do about them....

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7yr+ relationship with ex fiance 
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I hate my life 
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My ex-boyfriend was abusive, im not supposed to be dating, how do I tell my parents? 
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Is it me ... or is it him? 
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Misareble me,i hate the fact that am pretending to love him 
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Just need someone to help me and tell me if I'm in the wrong ? 
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Who I Almost Became 
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Confused---is it me, is it him, or neither? 
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do i leave him or not  
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Should I or should I not? 
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im not sure if its abuse.....???? but i know im not happy 
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So tired of this. 
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High School love Birds, Married and Miserable 
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I started it? I guess I did 
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lonely mom 
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Young and... in love? 
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My Story 
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Confusing 
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He "doesn't have a problem" 
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Toxic 
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Trying to get out 
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So Tired and Don't Know What to Do 
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Still hoping 
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WILL I EVER GET MY LIFE BACK? 
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Confused... Is this Abuse? 
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Mr. Wonderful 
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I'm just so confused and tired of being miserable. 
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Scared 
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16 years old, " Yes" to almost everything.. Is this bad? 
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My Abusive Dating Life 
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What do i do 
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7 years too long 
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Yes to all the questions above at 16 and married 
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Stuck in the past.. 
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Love? 
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I want to leave my husband but feel trapped ! 
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What's really going on in my life ? 
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A tale of 2 exes 
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I dont know what to do anymore... 
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But I love him. 
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I made a mistake 
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Is it me? Or is that just what he says to make him fell better? 
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Is it him or me? 
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I'm the Sugar-mama 
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Is It Me? 
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I love this man I had 8 children with, but we're ALWAYS fighting!  
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Confused 
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What to say... 
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To Stay Or Not To Stay? 
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Scared to leave and confused 
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I just don't understand... 
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YOUNG AND NAIVE 
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WORST DAY EVER!!! 
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Hoping 1 day it would change 
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He has to be in control 
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Loving a drug addict and dont know what to do 
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Why does love hurt ???? 
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Bipolar roommate/boyfriend from hell 
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Dead Inside. 
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He said he was different and he wouldn't hurt me... 
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I WANT TO BREAK UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND WHO IS ALSO MY ABUSER 
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He seems like he doesn't care 
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Confused 
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HE CLAIMS IT WAS THE DRUGS AND ALCOHOL 
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Where Has Alice Gone? 
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It All Starts With A Little Push Here And There 
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i feel lost 
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Confused and Heartbroken 
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Don't Know What To Do Anymore! 
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What To Do? 
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Unable to go, unwilling to leave 
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Brainwashed 
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Confused Tired and Hopeless 
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Love... Or Control? 
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The Love Of My Life 
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Trying To Get Out. 
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Old enough to know better... 
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Been together for 10 years 
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2 Years  
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My Past Has Made Me The Bully 
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What Is Wrong With Me???? 
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Abused for the first time at 44 
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No Escape 
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Pain and suffering 
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Dark Side 
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Emotional and Abusive boyfriend 
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It's your fault... 
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To be or not to be....happy, in love, married or just mentally insane! 
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Am I trying to fix something that can't be fixed? 
I have been dating my current boyfriend on and off for about 2 years. I really care about him but sometimes his actions scare me. He shoved me once when …

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Lost Trust 
We have been together for nearly 3years. We were opposites and completely infatuated with each other. Unfortunately a year-and-a-half later, i made the …

drained and scared 
When I first met my partner, he had not had a drink for a year. Soon he began to drink again and the ritual of drinking early in the morning and throughout …

I didnt see it 
I have been with my husband for 11 years, married for 5. We have 2 bio kids and are raising his son. Our relationship has mostly been unhappy and has …

lost and confused 
I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 5 years. In the beginning things were great and we were with each other 24/7. We became a drug-addicted couple …

Sad 
My bf of more than three years doesn't let me explain or defend myself whenever he has an issue with me. He gave me a three step rule to follow which is …

Toxic Relationship? 
I met my boyfriend at work about 7 years ago. We were both in relationships and were just friends for a while. But then we ended up starting to feel a …

Trapped 
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. In the beginning, things were almost idyllic, as most relationships seem to be. He was the funny guy, …

Desperately need help - being manipulated to death 
Is this acceptable behavior from my boyfriend of 4 years? Is It OK For My Boyfriend To: - slander me for 4 years with his ex-girlfriends, friends …

Was it ever love? 
My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years; we were inseparable. We got engaged after our one year anniversary, one of the happiest …

chance at love. 
He was a troubled kid the first time i meet him. He was into the wrong crowd back then, so was I. I was a drug addict with a problem, so was he. It took …

Is it Love-Confusion? Or is it not love at all? 
My boy-friend and i have been together for 3 months and almost 4. But on our second month, he yelled at me for the first time. Just for asking and reassurance …

He's abusive but I can't leave him or let him go.... 
I'm 16 years old and been with my boyfriend for 6 months and at first everything was great. But then he started getting controlling and jealous and abusive. …

Trapped 
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we've been through a lot together. I love him more than anything. However we go through these constant …

So many years..... 
I have been with my boyfriend for 20 years...since I was 15...we have one child together..who is 8...where do I begin...well...I know what I want and need …

Not so happy 
I've been married for three years and I have two little boys. I have no friends, and I have lost who I once was. I should have seen this coming but I didn't. …

Stuck. 
My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 5. I should have known that he was going to be abusive in one way or another. Now he …

IS THIS AN ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND? 
OK. IVE BEEN DATING THE GUY FOR 7 MONTHS. WE JUST MOVED IN 2 MONTHS AGO TOGETHER. HE SEEMED LIKE THE BEST BOYFRIEND EVER IN THE BEGINNING. I HAVE BEEN …

I thought he was a great lad, but then it all changed.......... 
I have been going out with a lad called Jack for at least 5 months and I really really liked him. I am 13 years old and we were in his house alone as his …

Silent Screams 
When I first met my boyfriend, it was about three years ago. Everything was going well at first. Later on in the relationship when he got angry, he would …

Is this abuse? 
My husband and I were getting into a heated argument, and insults were flying back and forth. He said something really degrading and I slapped him in the …

I love him but I cant tell if he is abusive 
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 4 years. I love him with all my heart but lately things have been getting worse between us. He has been …

Constantly scared 
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I'm almost 16, he's almost 19. When we first started dating everything was okay. …

The Amazing Shrinking Me 
I am/was married for 32 years. She controlled all of the money She controlled everything we did on the weekends Her two favorite phrases when having …

He never tells me I can't do something, but my life will be miserable if I do 
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So Confused 
I fear that I may be in an abusive relationship. At the very least, it seems toxic. I’m confused, though, because I know in my heart that my boyfriend …

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an abusers story 
First of all let me say I'm an abuser. so why would I write this account? Firstly I am told that if a Person feels that they were abused then they …

so many women 
I shared my story of my emotionally abusive fiancé with people around me and I came to find that so many women had experienced this or were currently experiencing …

What do I do 
I'm meant to be getting married next year. I love my partner to pieces but really don't think he loves me. I feel like he can't even be bothered to talk …

husband controls me and makes me sick 
when i first met my husband i did not know he was an alcoholic and drank a lot till we started living together. we moved to a town where his family …

12 Years 
We met at work 12 years ago. We began dating and everything seemed to be going well. It was not all sunshine and rainbows but nothing out of the ordinary. …

What should I do ? 
I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 5. Our relationship started abruptly. I got pregnant and we had a son quick into our relationship. …

Abusive partner 
My eyes are wide open. He controls my money, stuck with the kids 24/7. He expects me to cook and clean every day. He controls what i wear down to my hair …

was I always this stupid? what is/was wrong with me? 
When I look at my life, I can't help but feel sick inside. I hate myself for being so blind, stupid, weak, trusting, ignorant and naive. I really can't …

Searching for Heaven For 28 Years 
Have you ever been in a crowd of people and noticed a stranger that stood out above everyone else? That is my husband. I was in the middle of a divorce, …

I was lied too. 
I find myself stuck and confused. I don't know what to do and who I can tell that wont judge me for getting myself in this situation. In the beginning …

Tearing my hair out here.... is this normal? or a form of abuse/neglect maybe? 
I have been with my partner for 6 years, and it's only in the last year or so that I've really started to question my relationship. My partner does love …

After 6years he's starting to beat me 
I have been dating with my boyfriend for six years now, but we once broke up for a year because he was cheating on me. so we both moved on with our lives. …

Not good relationship 
My partner always controls every move i make. if i am on the phone, all i have to do is get off my chair and he will say what's u doing, what's that noise. …

my husband has had dreams about a famous woman 
My husband and i have been together for 11 years and married 2 years. We were very happy and full of life. We were inseparable. We would do crazy things …

I want out 
We've been together almost three months now but it feels like its been an eternity. Everything was so perfect, so perfect I brought my child around him. …

I'm Just Tired 
I am 41, and my boyfriend just turned 28. We met in a training class and to be honest I did not really think of him as anything more than a guy in the …

What I'd do if my girlfriend is upset because I'm afraid to talk in public or around peoples or around friends? 
What do I do if my girlfriend is upset because I'm afraid to talk in public or around peoples or around friends? I tried to explain her first time. she …

from the frying pan into the fire / making one mistake then unknowingly making another 
i met my first partner when i was 21, he was 29 and i was swept of my feet. he was generous, kind and most of all he loved me. within 3 weeks of meeting …

Recovering in AA and living with a TIMEBOMB 
I am 48 yrs old, 8 months dating current BF, living together just 7 weeks. I did not drink daily, but WHEN I did it was a bottomless glass. 38 days sober. …

I made a mistake  
Me and my partner have been together for around 7,8 months, so still very early days. We have enjoyed each others company and getting to know each other …

All ways on egde 
I have been with my partner for 10 years. we have A 5 year old daughter. he stays at my house, sometimes goes back to mummies? playing the good husband …

what do i do??? 
sorry this is long but I'm really struggling on whether to say yes on no to counselling. for a while my has been abusing me. she hits me so bad I end …

I think I hate him 
We have been together for 7 long years. I was 17 and he was 23 when we first started dating. The first six months were awesome. He was my first real boyfriend …

SEXLESS MARRIAGE 
Hallo all, I have been married for about 17 years. For years we struggled to get a baby. I thank God coz we have an 8 year old son who we both adore …

mark dando 
when I meet mark Dec of 14, we went on the date with him. I know we had a something so I going around to him all the time. then we had starting having …

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I don't know what to do.. 
I've been with my boyfriend for almost five years now, and things were really great until a couple of months ago. I've lived with him for about three years. …

it never stops 
every day every hour in my relationship with my mum, I found that she would call me names, hit me, touch me inappropriately, try put me down and many more. …

what do i do??? 
hi, sorry this is a bit long but I really need your help. I'm wondering if anyone any can help me here. I've got a real problem with my mum.I always …

just broke up with the man.I.love cause he's sick, and sexual controlling and at times abusive 
Been with my boyfriend for 18 months although I've known him years I have ended the relationship as everything in our relationship has to revolve around …

Yes I have my fiancé that I'm fixing to marry 
His family is bossing him around & telling him that he needs to break up with me when he doesn't want to & they're telling him he can't talk to me at all. …

I want to stay but also want to leave 
My partner and I have been together for 4 years. I've wanted to be with him since I met him 13 years ago. Our families are very close and I enjoy doing …

IS IT OK TO STAY IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE ?????? 
Hallo all, I have been married for about 17 years. For years we struggled to get a baby. I thank God coz we have an 8 year old son who we both adore very …

confused  
My husband sometimes feels like a stranger to me. He is very stubborn minded and has a bad temper. In the past I just argued back with him. I took on board …

friends and family 
I'm leaving to go "back home" in about two weeks. This has been planned since aprox Oct. About 6 wks ago, a friend's sister called and invited (expenses …

is it possible to forgive domestic abuse 
We have been dating with this guy for two years now. sometime last year.. i upset him n he came to my hostel, ordered me to get into his car. he drove …

unsure 
I have a baby boy at 9 month old to a previous relationship. he don't take nothing at all ado with my little one. I am now in a 6 month relationship …

Feeling Guilty About Leaving 
I have been in a controlling and verbally and emotionally abusive relationship for 7 years. In that 7 years, i have had things thrown at me. I have had …

Listen to your head or your heart? 
Almost 7 years ago I met my boyfriend. For me it was an instant physical and emotional attraction. At the time we met I was in a pretty serious 4 year …

Help please, don't want to break up my family 
I have been with my husband for 10 years. we have a one year old and seven year old, he has a daughter from a previous relationship. We lost our 4 month …

I'm trapped 
I've been with my boyfriend since i was 17. i'll be 21 next month. through the years he has cheated on me several times, even on our anniversary. i gave …

Verbally "Abusive" Father 
My husband and I have been married for 13 years now. We have a very different setting - for 13 years now. we only see him weekends and holidays -he works …

Help 
Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend a year now. When we first started dating I lied about my past and said I had been on a couple dates with someone that …

5 months pregnant and in an unhealthy relationship with my baby daddy call 
call me crazy but my story is a sad and stressful one. where to start. well we started dating when he was locked up. it was ok. i thought he was going …

He is my addiction 
Well... he and I met last year and we aren't technically dating yet, although he has told me that he loves me and wants to be with me. What's holding our …

wow 
Wow i said yes to just about every one but maybe 1. I was with my ex for 5 years and we have a 4 year old son together. He was everything. We were always …

Controlling Perfectionist Husband  
We have been married 39 yrs. he was not always like this. He has to have things done his way because " His way is the right way" (so he says). When I cook, …

I don't know anymore... 
I have been with this guy for two years. when it all started i felt like it was perfect. we saw each other all the time, and he always made me feel safe …

I'm Not Sure What A Non-Abusive Boyfriend Is?  
Well, I'm 22 and my boyfriend of 4 years is also 22. We started dating in the summer between junior and senior year of high school. I thought he was the …

short version 
Been together 4 months, I'm pregnant, 14 year difference (he's older). He doesn't like me having male friends and i had 3 best friends when i met him, …

Hurting 
Been with my partner for 4 years. he has left me 8 times, mostly to go back to his ex. because of this two of my children left home. I have contact with …

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About to give a divorce soon 
I've been married for two years now. When I first met my husband, he was a great friend. I used to dress nice look youthful and vibrant. I saw a couple …

Leave out now  
My husband doubt at me hit me slap me Even am 4 months pregnant.. I'm worried where it's gone effect my baby inside. I can't Even fight back. ones he hit …

CONFUSED LOVE  
Well... I noticed that I am a majority of these things. I can be all these ways and it's mostly because of the anger that I have for this person. We go …

It started out grand! 
I was three years out of a 12-year bad marriage to an alcoholic who ran around when I met him (B). We had our love of children in common. He had four, …

so alone 
I was abused as a child mentally and nearly physically. my life now with my partner of 23 years, I always say it's an extension of my life as a child . …

Strong in all parts of my life, except for when I am with him. 
I have been with my husband for more than 20 years. Have great children and was totally blind on the fact he was mentally abusive. My middle daughter had …

Head says one thing Heart says another 
We met when I was 20 and he was 35. Looking back it was abusive from the start but hey hindsight is a wonderful thing! Within weeks he was letting me down …

Is this abuse? 
I have been married for 20 years to a type A man. Over the last ten years there has been a lot of stress due to his business and the caring for his father …

stuck in too deep 
been with my partner for over 7yrs. he used to, when we first started, hit me. then it got to calling me names, like bitch, cunt, slag, slapper etc. now …

confused and depresssed 
Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years. We have a Two year old son. I love my boyfriend so much but he's so mean to me and all I do …

lost myself trying to make him happy 
I can't believe it's only this year I realize I been emotionally abused. my husband whom i've known for seven years now always finds something to accuse …

Worried 
Been married for one month. Dated since 2005. Before our wedding day Jan. this year our relationship I think was good. My husband is very controlling …

Thanks For Your Help 
Hi, I am speachless for the help I had from You ...Everything has changed for good....no... for Great...I would never realise that I got back my Best Friend …

I answered yes to all 
I really just want to die and feel alone. It'd be okay if I ONLY felt alone, it is more like hell. Even as I type I'm afraid she will hear me over …

Walking on Eggshells 
We are both 34 and have been together for 11 years. I have 3 children from a previous relationship. We had a rocky few years, but over the past couple …

Mental abuse, I guess you can say that. 
I was 14 when I first met my boyfriend and he was 16. We dated for 5 months. I know what I'm about to say is stupid and well I guess you can say I brought …

My bipolar girlfriend has changed for the worse. 
I have been going out with a bipolar woman for the last 4-5 months. It was great the first 3-4 months and then she changed overnight for the worse, and …

Breaking free from the craziness 
He is so controlling, he just was talking about killing and getting only 3 years for it! I so afraid right now, I think he is planing to kill me. How …

Home is where my husband is 
My husband and I have been married for 5 years. I love him dearly and that's my problem. I could answer yes to all of the above questions. He is consistently …

How do I ask him to leave when he has never been able to support himself? 
I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has never worked in all that time, or indeed before he met me. He briefly had a clinic as a hypnotherapist …

Test results. 
1. Do you feel afraid to speak your mind, express how you feel or ask for something you need? Yes, I am often afraid to speak my mind. This is because …

confused 
i can't even put into words how i ended up feeling like i do. my husband, who is my second husband, talks down to me, controls the money, won't let me …

I have no idea 
I have been in a relationship for four years. Everything was okay until about a year and a half ago when I developed anxiety and depression. I ended up …

Opinions Please? 
I have been with my fiance for over three years now. We moved out together a year ago. When we first started dating, it was wonderful. I was quiet and …

Opposite 
I've had a shit life. I love my gf with all my heart... But I know I've done wrong, Threatening to kill myself, or talking to her in a certain way.. I …

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What do I say to my family? 
My boyfriend and I got in a fight and I ended up with a broken collar bone. He was arrested for aggravated assault but charges were dismissed. We talked …

Unsure 
I met him online. We got into a relationship pretty quickly. Shortly after we met, I told him I had hung with an friend (who was an ex), and when he found …

What should i do? 
I will try to make this short and sweet but it had been a rough and ragged 20 years. I met my husband when I was 15 and he knew I had a bad childhood. …

princess and the frog 
I was married to my prince charming, I thought. We were married for a few weeks and that is when I received my first signs of violence. He didn't put …

Young and in love.  
I am 17 years old, & my boyfriend is 20. We met a year ago, and have been seeing each other ever since. It developed into a wonderful relationship, I haven't …

Its hurts too much 
Hi, my name is bonnie. my boyfriend & i met in 2008 & when i 1st met him, i had a gut feeling that he was bad news but i ignored them. so me and him became …

Young mother inlove with the babys father. 
So i was with my ex boyfriend off and on for almost four years, i'm 18 and he's 19 now. At the beginning everything was perfect, but then I cheated because …

abusive partner 
I have been in an abusive relationship for 9 yrs and really need to get out. We have 1 child together who is 4 yrs old that now sees this. I have 2 older …

confused 
well, me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. it started off great and now it's not so good, because many times he's verbally abusive, …

young and confused 
Hi. I'm 24 yrs old, my husband 37 yrs old. we been together for 4 years but been married a year..we have no kids together. he had 5 but i only know 2 of …

never enough 
I feel like I am nvr enough for him or even that I'm enough for him. I'm nvr told I look good or pretty. I'm always viewed as negative to him and he nvr …

Is this abuse? 
We have been married for eight years. Whenever he drinks, I never know what to expect. Sometimes he's funny and sweet. Tonight he woke up in a rage, threw …

3 Years of Abuse and I am still in love 
About 3 years ago, I met a guy who was really sweet. He seemed very thoughtful and caring. I was hesitant of dating. Because, I had ended a 5 year relationship …

my abusive boyfriend 
we are both in our 50's. I meet my ex bf. at speed dating 6 years ago. at first he was lovely. took me out bought me nice things. I was so happy to have …

46 Woman and boyfriend 
What to say. Was married for 19 years. Asked for a divorce on grounds of emotional abuse and prostitution. Then met a wonderful man. Due to finances we …

Is this abuse? 
I feel so dumb. This is my second marriage. My first marriage ended because my ex and I had nothing in common. He was a lovely man, but we did not love …

My life of being controlled 
I have been in a controlling relationship for 28 years. A long time, right? I know what people say about people like me. They say things like why does …

It must be me? 
We've been married 8 years. It started off on a challenging note. I arrived in the US under the impression his parents knew we'd be getting married etc., …

I was blind, but now I see.  
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. In the beginning of our relationship, he was more than I could ask for. He was encouraging, loving, …

I was just hurt once again, and I'm tired of it. 
Just got through with an "argument" with my husband. I can always tell when there's something coming, and this wasn't different. He made me feel stupid, …

what should i do 
i and my boyfriend are in relationship from last 4 years... there are physical relations also in between us... but from last year he has started ignoring …

dont knw what to do anymore 
I have been reading some of the articles on this site and i can relate so much to some of them. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 23. he is a more orthodox kind …

I marry to a man n his family 
I'm afraid of tell what's in my mind, how I feel because I'm afraid they might get angry. I want to have my own life as a mother, but I feel my kid is …

Shocked 
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We got engaged last August and had a 1 year old son together. My boyfriend has been cheated on in the past …

it started great 
Iv been with my partner for a while now. we've been engaged for nearly a year. Before the engagement everything was fine. he'd kiss the ground I walked …

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bad from the start? 
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years. he's 4 and half years older than me, and my parents were cautious from the beginning. we were …

how do i leave????? 
Me and my husband have been married for 14 years. And out of 14 years, i've only been happy 2 of them. I knew when he first hit me when we started going …

I feel frozen, immobile, and losing my strength and resolve 
Let me preface this by saying I had a very wonderful, healthy marriage. We went to couples counseling for about 7 years. It did wonders for our relationship. …

Shell Shocked 
I was 23, just completed my MBA in one of the best colleges in the country. My parents received a proposal for me. Coming from an extremely cultured yet …

If I simply change the word "partner" to "parent" 
I answer yes to every single question except #12. And I could substitute for that "making fun of me for childhood sexual abuse and accusing me of initiating …

Numb.. 26 y.o. 
My husband and I have been married for nine months, together for 3 years and we have an eight month old son together. We recently had a disagreement where …

I am lost.. Please someone help me 
Hey :) I have a boyfriend I have had for almost two years, and we started dating right when my parents started having an ugly divorce. My mom is trying …

Help Me Please! (I dont know what to do) 
Hello, I am 22 yrs old and i seriously don't know what to do... I have been dating my boyfriend on and off for about 1 & 1/2 yrs now, but i have known …

Love and abusive the Taka Manning story 
I'm 13 years old and I'm currently dating a 14 year old boy. we met at school in my health class. he seemed sweet at first. So once we had became good …

addicted to my abusive ex boyfriend 
I have been with my abusive ex-boyfriend for over fifteen years now, and he has done some perverted things to me to make me feel dirty, and he also made …

not sure about abusive relationship:-\ 
Hi I'm 22 and my bf is same age as me n I'm with him 2yr 8 months. We planning to get married in august. but the thing is we gonna live with his mother …

i dont deserve children. 
My husband told me I don't deserve children because I have no patience. Ugh then tells me to not think about what he said and cheer up. wtf is wrong with …

MY LIFE 
I was once visiting my boyfriend at his home. I had an argument with his sis, and his mom took her daughter's side and acted very badly towards me. I felt …

Abused and Clueless  
When I was 16, I got into my first real relationship. I wasn't into him that much, but I said yes when he asked me out. He was a senior and I was a …

My boyfriend is older and... 
we've been together for about a year now. We have a lot of fun together and i love him a lot. But when he's angry i get scared. He punches things, breaks …

What do I do? I'm marrying him in a months time. 
I have been with my fiance for 8 months. Right in the 2nd month of our relationship he insisted I talk about us to our family, and i did talk because things …

I don't know what to do anymore 
My husband has gotten very bad since we first got married. He has called me names and talked down on me, but for awhile I just looked past that because …

disfunction became my last name 
Me and my bf meet at a mud hole. he seemed flirtatious and eventually got my number. there were warning signs back then, at the beginning I knew it was …

whats happened to me? 
When we first started going out, my boyfriend was the perfect guy. We went out to gatherings, dinner, I was starting to make new friends and going to school. …

He really was too good to be true 
I met him 6 years ago, was lonely and he was smart and handsome and I was his everything. After two years much of it was phone and internet as he was …

set in my ways or what? 
I'm not a young girl in love, I thought I was an old girl in love. I have been with my bf for two years, known him for twenty. we got together after he …

emotionally drained 
after 9 1/2 yrs with my husband, he started downgrading my looks ,my weight.... then found he was cheating then he hit me .... i left and we were trying …

Getting Stronger 
My separation has been going on almost 3 years. To be fair for 1 and a half years when I filed, we tried to reconcile. Things only got worse. I'll tell …

i just have to be honest because i think i'm going nuts 
at first everything was good. i'd never met anyone who thought so much about me. my confidence was high and i felt really good about myself. we dated in …

I was abused and it nearly killed me.  
It started when I was 29 and lasted for 8 years. I met this charming, charismatic, good looking man in a store and it escalated from there. He insisted …

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feeling so very low 
Hi. i have been in a relationship for 2 yrs now. everything was normal at first, as i guess it always is. Then 2 months after he moved in, i saw he had …

After 5 yrs of abuse I feel nothing 
My relationship started out like a perfect fairytale in a movie. We were instantly drawn to each other, I just graduated high school, and I was going to …

5years of hell  
As i read every question, i can answer yes to every single question on top of more not listed. I've been burned bitten punched kicked slapped choked... …

I need to regain control of my life. 
I met my guy at work. He's one of the bosses. And happens to be married. It started as friendly banter and turned into flirting and from there, a sexual …

Winding 
Lights flashing, blurry surroundings. I knew it was going to happen again. My hearts racing, I knew i had to pick my words carefully, knew I'd have to …

Is it only in my head?? 
I've been in a more-than-friends relationship with a woman for the past 10 months. She has an explosive temper and gets angry with me regularly. Often, …

confused and lost 
I have been married to my husband for seven years. We have two beautiful little girls, 6 & 3. At first he was my world, but now my world is crumbling. …

Abusive Alcoholic Husband of 14 years 
The past few years has got to the point where I don't want to come home, as my husband lies and drinks till early AM, as he works from home with a very …

I was never taken on a date ! 
I met a 'wonderful' man through a Dating Site. I am considered very attractive, although this has not made me confident. I come from a bad background where …

Married to an abusive man 
How are you all doing? I am glad I was able to access this site and I am in the same boat as you all. I have been married to my husband for 4 years …

Im so confused 
My bf and I have been together for 4 yrs and have lived together 3 1/2 yrs. When We 1st moved in together he was physical with me when he was drinking, …

I lost my life. 
My boyfriend of two years got me to move out of my moms house, and now we are going to be having a daughter together in July. I'm 18 and I really wish …

Helpless 
It's been one year and 6 months to my current relation ship. I'm 17 and he is 19. We met through a friend and that's how things got started. First few …

so much drama 
Well, I'm not in an ideal relationship at all. I'm involved with someone who is very controlling and mad at every little thing. Nothing is ever right. …

I answered yes to nearly every question 
how unhealthy is my relationship? he's a psycho. i know i should leave him. i know it's unhealthy. i know he's gonna do me some serious damage but …

I'm just not sure 
I get so confused at times. I'm not sure if I'm with an abusive person or if it's just me being moody and not understanding my partners reasons. We've …

I have no where to go. 
i feel so embarrassed to share this but feel it's necessary. i've been with my husband for 5 years and there is a lot of physical abuse as well as emotional …

Sad and Happy days! 
I have been in a relationship with this guy for 4 yrs strong, and its so much i have been through. I hope you enjoy when reading this, and if you have …

Manipulated? emotionally abused? help please? 
Hi everyone... So my boyfriend and i were married. i was very young. he was older than me. after 2 years i developed feelings for a mutual friend. we …

All too familiar 
I met my wife when I was 26. We were so happy for the first months. It was at this point when I noticed a more "untamed" side of her. The abuse started …

Trapped 
Well, I have gotten myself into a bad situation here, and now I feel trapped and don't know how I will get out. I moved out of state to be with my b/f …

am confused 
I am mother of a 15 months old baby girl with a boyfriend, though not staying together. I have been in this relationship for two years now. The time i …

i feel so alone  
I've been with my kid's father for 8 years now. And for the last 6-7 years, life has become unbearable. I answered "yes" to every single one of those …

Is there hope for this relationship? 
So, my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for about two months. At the time I met her, I was coming out of a major heartbreak, and she promised …

My daughter's father almost killed me... in a way he did. 
At first the relationship was perfect. I've always been abused and never opened up but with him I did. I told him everything. Then 1 month in, he started …

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I am confused about this one 
I am in my early 20's and he is in his early 30's. I met him while abroad and we started dating after knowing each other for 6 weeks. We have now been …

Help... I don't know what to do..I'm so lost 
I met my partner about 4 years ago. It wasn't even nice when we first got together (I know I sound crazy!). To start with, he would go missing for …

Is he abusive or am I mad?? 
I have been with him for 6 years. I am 39 and he is 43. We have both been married before and have children from those marriages. We have 2 small boys of …

Drained 
My ex-husband and I have been back together for 3 years now. We were only married a year and I made the decision to file for divorce when he started showing …

Brain washed 
I met him and we hit it off right away. were inseparable .... he never complained about anything. a couple of months go by and the complaints start.. you …

Where do I stand? 
It's been 2 years now, and at first everything was perfect. I just don't know anymore about where I stand. I'm not leaving him for I never will probably. …

This is all my Fault 
Here goes. I am a full-time student and I have a 12 year old daughter. I live with my boyfriend as it is impossible to afford to give my daughter the quality …

I'm 16 and abused.. 
When I was 13, I met my boyfriend. He was 17. We've been dating for three years and it was amazing for the first year. Things quickly changed. I found …

Abusive Online Long Distance Relationships.... Yes They Exist Too! 
I was just coming out of a 7 year relationship and decided to sign on an online site. I figured it would help talking to people, not actually meeting anyone. …

DONT STAY!!!! 
I have been in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship since 2003, although he wasn't always this way. he was great till 2008. first the name …

Love the way you lie.. 
I am now 19, my (ex) boyfriend is 20, soon to be 21. We met in high school. I was 15, he was 16. At first things were great. We got to know each other …

life of fear 
I've been trying to get my story everywhere I can to help young ladies. I'm 15 years old and since I was a little girl, I was abused in many ways. I was …

Love is blind  
The beginning started out good. I thought I had finally found a good guy and he seemed to know me and everything I tried to hide about my feelings, he …

who is this? 
my husband and i have been married for just over a year. Since we got married, i noticed a change in the way he speaks to me. He is now unapologetic, unemotional …

My mum's rollercoaster ride 
My mum has been seeing this guy for about 6-7 years, and it all seemed well in the start. Four years ago, they had a daughter, and that meant that this …

Taxi girl 
I have been married for six years and we've been together for 15 years. The mistrust has been going on since the beginning. Only in the last two years …

A intelligent beautiful woman who is in love with Dr.Hyde 
I am a 29 year old mother of 1. I met my husband 11 years ago. We have been together ever since. We started out the perfect couple and was like that for …

Scared, Lonely and Nervious 
I have been married to my husband for 9 years. We have three beautiful children and I have two children from my first marriage. I moved out of the states …

The Shame and Guilt of it all... 
I have been trying to be vocal and work on my relationship of 8 years, but I'm afraid it's coming at a cost of so much guilt and shame that things are …

Emptiness 
I'm a 48 year old female. I going through a divorce with a man I've been with for 14 years. We married 7 years into the relationship and have a 7 year …

Lost 
I have been with my now husband for over 8 years. We got married this year in March. We fight a lot. On our wedding day, we of course fought all the way …

Thought it was normal  
my relationship had gone on for a year with no violence. but then he started to call me names, slap me if i did things wrong. i was 19 and a single mom …

Taken For Granted 
We are both adults and have been together for about four years. He was nicer and more thoughtful about how I might feel about things when we were first …

The Cycle 
My answers to the above quiz show me that in my current relationship we abuse each other. In many of my past relationships, I was abused in almost all …

So confused 
I am a bisexual female, this is my first time actually dating. My girlfriend is older then me. She's had many partners before, both male and female. We've …

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I feel like our relationship will not survive 
I keep trying to explain to my partner that controlling, manipulative behavior does not work for me. I am beginning to see a lot of shouting at me, and …

10 years of Mental Abuse 
Having just read the story about the lady who is going ahead and marrying her abusive partner, I would like to share my story with you. We met in 2000. …

He was not anything 
I've been in a relationship for a year, and all my boyfriend ever cares about is getting some booty. i had to redefine the type of man i wanted and to …

Moved on 
Please---like I have read "If it looks, walks, and quacks like a duck---it’s a duck." MOVE ON. I was contemplating on giving this guy a Father's Day …

What You Don't Think About 
Just because he hasn't hit you doesn't mean he's not abusive. If he gets really angry all the time, and lashes out with his voice, like yelling screaming, …

Am i to blame 
We had a row. he insulted my grown up children so i said some very hurtful things. he spat in my face and punched me in the side of my head several times. …

I can't believe 
I said yes to so many of these. He's gotten worse since we've gotten married. I don't think I'll ever leave because I don't want to hurt him...

Dream or reality.... what is love 
He was my knight in shining armor. He did everything right until we got married. Then he came home drunk, said it was always someone else's fault. I was …

scared 
I'm twenty five in a relationship with a guy not much older. we have a toddler, been together for years n he does everything for us. When he's angry he …

STUCK :( 
me & my boyfriend have been knowing each other for four years. we started off in a relationship but decided to be friends in the second month of this relationship. …

Can't Let Him Send Me 2 An Early Grave!!  
I was with my child's father for 8 years and he hit me for the first time in Feb. We weren't arguing but out of nowhere he just smacked me... He knocked …

An Ex is an Example of Who NOT to Date 
I dated an abusive boyfriend throughout high school and I made the same mistake with my recent ex boyfriend. I hate that I keep making these mistakes. …

I was In a relatioship for 3 months. Then she dumped me? 
We were good for each other. Laughed and loved. She broke up with me. Then wrote me a letter saying she was wrong! I took her back. I didn't care, …

Boyfriend 
i have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. he has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, the best. of late he sees me once or twice a …

Not me... 
I would not ever have imagined that I would have been in a relationship that made me doubt things I had accomplished before I met him. A control freak, …

Misery loves company 
Hi all, I hope that you do not find this too boring. I met my partner 5 1/2years ago. We hit it off straight away, but i was a bit cautious as I had …

Don't know what to do 
I met my boyfriend... then fell pregnant after 5 months. Then he went on holiday for a month and missed the birth of his baby. He says he wasn't there …

My husband 
My husband drinks morning noon and night. i thought i could be there and give him the best way i could. He tell me I'm lazy, dumb but I'm not the one with …

Abusive Cheater 
I've been with my 40 year old boyfriend (I am 32) for ten years now. He has never been incredibly faithful, ie; phone sex, chatting with women in chat …

It's My Fault... 
Today I yelled at myself as if it wasn't me... ''You're so f---ing stupid because you can't just LEAVE!!! You deserve to be degraded, ridiculed, treated …

Worried and Confused 
Hi. I'll get right to it. I think but am not sure if my boyfriend is an abusive person. We've known each other for 3 months now. We met online and hit …

Was it me .???? 
In the beginning, things were absolutely perfect I had met the man of my dreams. I never thought someone would take me on with three children. My previous …

Did I forgive him too easily? 
Me and this guy have been going out for 5 months, and he's my first boyfriend. I feel like I'm in love with him, but we get into lots of fights. I mainly …

The Truth… 
My boyfriend of 8 months is out of control. I haven't told my parents any of this and I need to get everything off my chest. When we first met, he …

Year and 1/2 with my bf 
I am still with him but I want to leave. Things are awful. I tried to leave but he convinced me to stay and, like a naive woman, I did. He made promises …

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Why Me? 
My wife took this quiz and said I was mentally abusive. But when reviewing the questions, she was just as abusive as I ,and now it's just me pickin? Sousa …

I refuse to let my husband control me. 
i am married 3 years now. in everything i want to do, my husband has something negative to say. i wanted to take my GED. he didn't like the idea of me …

Woke up and smelled the coffee! 
I was in a relationship for a year. He was a very nice man in church and everything, but something I learned about him during this time was unsettling. …

An abusive past may destroy my future!!!! 
Hi, I am a 28 yr old female and I was in an abusive relationship for a couple of months. I met this guy at college and left with him to go back to his …

We're Different. 
My name is Morgan and I'm 18. Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years, and we have a beautiful baby together. We're getting married in a month …

Getting Worse 
I have been married for 21 years. The controlling behavior of my husband has become progressively worse, and now I always feel like I am treading on egg …

Cultural Shame! 
Well, to begin with i am a Muslim from a strict family background, and sex before marriage is highly unacceptable. I starting going out with a guy …

I need Help .... I am too scared to leave him 
Hi there. I am a 23 yr old and my boyfriend of 5.5 years is 24 yrs old. Problems which I noticed only started in Oct/ Nov. Me and my bf went to a bachelor …

Abused 
I've been abused my whole life. I was physically and mentally abused by my parents throughout my childhood. Then I got married to flee from the hell in …

Don't Know What I Should Do.. 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. In arguments, he always puts the blame on me and calls me "crazy," like I'm nothing to him. He's …

His family says i'm a bad person....  
... because he tells them lies and puts me down to them. His family neglects me and my kids. I have been with him 3 years this year. I felt left out; …

I Feel Stuck 
I live with the father of my children. I love him with all my heart, but feel I can't stay. Reason being is he's very controlling. We argue all the …

DIVORCED BUT STILL THERE... 
I started dating my boyfriend in August of 2009 after being acquaintances for over 25 years. He and his wife were separated for about 3 years prior. At …

Confused 
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend going on 4years. Lately I've been feeling confused about a lot. He is a good man and I love him with everything …

Religion as a Crutch to Hide Behind 
Well, I thought I had met a christian man at church; that was all I wanted. Something God had placed before me, but not always is it the case. We dated, …

When Will It Ever Get Better? Will It Get Better? 
Ive been in this relationship for seven years and I can't remember the first time I got abused because of the many times it's happened. I get abused verbally, …

I saw life through rose coloured glasses 
I fell in love instantly and he knew! Through our whole relationship of 18 yrs, he has known that I would fight tooth and nail for the family. He has …

Confused Abused and Underappreciated 
I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we have a 7 month old son together and i love them with all my heart. But he is abusive towards me, physically …

He Found Me and I Lost Myself 
I never knew that I would be in this situation. But...here I am, in a Domestic Violence Shelter with a great Program for women who have suffered every …

Lost and Confused 
My wife and I have been married for 2 years and recently had a child. In our 1st year of marriage, my sister robbed us for heroin and there is a suspicion …

It Doesn't Always Seem Like Abuse 
People fight. It's not optional. But it doesn't have to get physical for it to be abuse. I became best friends with this girl who lives across the …

PLEASE READ NEED ADVICE! 
I met my boyfriend while our families were on vacation. We were together from that moment on. He always seemed a bit selfish and had huge blowouts with …

My Worst Nightmare 
I was nineteen, and to be honest, I didn't really know any better. He was a friend of mine from high school, who had recently graduated and joined the …

Well, That's UNHEALTHY 
I answered yes to 21/25 questions. Is my relationship really THAT messed up? I mean, I love him to death and all, and it wasn't always like this. I …

Sad and Scared 
Me and my boyfriend were dating for 2 years... He has always been a controlling person.. He was so jealous of my best friend, that he forced me to stop …

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Confused 
My boyfriend and i have been together for a little over three years. Our relationship started off with him disagreeing with me going out with my friends …

NOT sure if i did the right thing???? 
Hello, When i was 18, i moved out and moved to Wllmar, MN for college. I was there for about 6 months before I meet my boyfriend. We did everything. …

CRYING OUT FOR FOR HELP 
In the past I was badly abused. I was kicked- slapped- grabbed by my hair- punched in the face-pushed- shoved -and shaken really hard. I was even spit …

Forced In. 
I was dating this guy who was the COMPLETE opposite of me, who I date, what I stand for. But he was sweet. He was 14 at the time and I'm 15. He was …

The Devil Himself 
My dad abandoned my family when I was 15. The same year, I started dating the Devil. He called himself the Devil, and let me know on multiple occasions …

Don't do the same as they do... 
At first I thought my bf was the abusive one. Now by going on different sites, I'm realizing that I am also perpetrating the abuse. It wasn't like …

I need him to get anger management. 
I been with my fiancee for 13 years and we have one child together, and i was in a abusive relationship before i went with my fiancee. He knew the guy …

The biter in the bedroom, turned even worse towards me 
My partner was charming, etc, for a couple of months. Then he started biting me in bed, on the arms, neck, etc. They weren't lovebites. It was for sheer …

TRYING DIDNT WORK 
I WAS HEAD OVER HEELS FOR A GUY AND HE WAS MY IDEAL, IT WAS LIKE LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. BUT HE WAS ALREADY INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO I WAS CLOSE TO. WE FLIRTED …

Confused as Hell 
I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 9 months but i have known him for 4 years. The first day we started going out, I told him everything about …

Maybe death will only do us part.. 
I got in a serious relationship at age 18 with my hubby right now. We finally got hitched after 3 yrs of dating. I was about 3 months pregnant at the time. …

Fairy tale 
It started off during middle school. I met him during our physical education class. We were standing in line . I clearly remember we were standing in line …

it all went wrong 
At first everything was perfect...i thought he was the one and never thought he would hit me...It all started when i was talking on the phone to an old …

SCARED AND CONFUSED 
I DON'T KNOW IM IN A ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP BUT I'M GETTING ALL THE SIGNS. I BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 2 YEARS NOW. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH BUT I DON'T THINK …

Am I in a bad dream 
Young ladies,please listen to what I am about to tell you and do what you know is true. Learn to love yourself enough that you do not end up in a nightmare …

God is my keeper 
I share my story, because I believe I am finally ready to share my story. First of all, to all you young ladies who believe you can change your man, I …

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