I need him to get anger management.

by Marie Erickson
(Blaine Mn Anoka )

I been with my fiancee for 13 years and we have one child together, and i was in a abusive relationship before i went with my fiancee. He knew the guy that abused me, and he told me that he would treat me better.

And i thought he would, knowing that i knew him since middle school and had been best friends in high school. So i told him at the grad all-night party i would go out with him, knowing he was a sweet guy and that i could feel safe.

But it all changed months later when it came to fourth of July and he told me to get out of his car and walk home. Then he started to call me names.

Well, he said he was sorry and i forgave him. Since then he just got worse, and just about a week ago, he stopped the car and told me to take our son and start to walk home. The weather was so humid and hot that i started to feel sick.

Then about 30 min. later, he came to pick us up. He dropped us off at home and then he took off and did not come back home for three hours. When he came in, he blamed me and told me to stop crying. He called me a lot of names. I could not help crying, and the worst yet, he says this in front of our son. He even calls my friends names and does not like who i hang out with.

I want to leave but i think of my son without a father in the home. I think of all the good times we had, and i start to think maybe that man will come back and this mean one will be gone for ever.

He told me tonight that when he gets a better job that he is moving out. So instead i told him "no, you are going tonight." He started to cry and said that he does not want to move. So i think that i will tell him to go to his dad's house for the weekend, and i will think if i want you back. I will tell you Sunday.

I can not deal with him treating me this way anymore. In some ways he is treating me how my ex did. But he never hit me like my ex did. It is a lot of name calling and hurting words.

I wish my fiancee would hold me when i cry and tell me that he is very sorry and it won't ever happen again. I have not even given him sex, and I'm not wearing the engagement ring either until he decides to change his ways. If he does not, i will never give him sex or put on the ring. And i will say goodbye to him for good.