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Is this abuse?

by Confused Wife
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My husband and I were getting into a heated argument, and insults were flying back and forth. He said something really degrading and I slapped him in the face. He slapped me back and pushed me to the ground. I told him to stop, considering our children were home but he seemed unable to. He had a scary look in his eye that I hadn't seen before. He then took me by the shoulders and tried to push me out the front door, obviously against my will. I left the house, sought help from my family, but didn't have any scars to show for our scuffle.
When I spoke to my mother-in-law about her son's aggressive behaviors, she dismissed it by saying "if he wanted to hurt you, he would have." I feel he was abusive, but my mother-in-law's comments along with my guilt over my original slap to him makes me question it. Was his behavior abusive?

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Oct 01, 2010

Violence begets violence
by: Anonymous

I cannot condone his behavior; it was abuse but you did hit him first. It's a really sensitive topic because I feel that a man should never ever lay a hand on a woman. But had he let it go, you might have told yourself that you can get away with slapping him whenever you're angry.

Jul 31, 2010

Wake up
by: Anonymous

I know from living it: mother-in laws are blind, or she was abused and her way of handling it is to sweep it under the rug. Mother-in-laws can be why your husband is not waking up, because maybe she wants to believe something that is not real. She wants to believe that he is okay when he is not okay. Read God is my keeper and look at how I lived for 23 years.

You need to wake up and do not take your mother-in law's crap. Sounds like you have a big problem. I did with my mother-in-law; they just are blind. God help them to see the monsters they created, and get their son some serious help, starting with admitting their son has a big problem.

Jul 02, 2010

Don't slap a man!
by: Anonymous

Really, I am a man and I will never ever condone ANY type of violence , especially physical. But what give you the right to slap him? I know from personal experience how a woman can push a man's buttons when they want to. I had an ex wife who slapped me in the back of the head in front of family. It was humiliating, and though I never touched her, I surely warned her about it. Another time we had a argument that got so heated I had to disengage. She followed me throughout the house and into the garage. I told her several times to stay away from me because I was losing control. I finally had to put myself and a car between us, before I left the house. Violence begets violence and a man is usually physically stronger. Don't hit. If he hits you call the police.

Feb 18, 2010

Know your Worth
by: Anonymous

Yes, you have been a victim of physical abuse. Yes, you were a victim of physical abuse. I mean he is a man and he took it so far he could of hurt you. Being in several abusive relationships, i can honestly say what if he gets that mad again..how far will he take it then? (something to think about)
Be strong and i hope he never lay hands on you again. We as women tend to forget that we are Queens and we should be treated like a Queen on a daily basis. :)

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