Not ready for children...

by Anonymous
(Georgia, USA)

My husband and I have been married for 8 months and we are already fighting about when to start a family. We have been in a relationship for a few years, and the entire time has been long distance. We still live on opposite sides of the country.


I am set to move in June to where he is, and he wants to get started on a family as soon as I get there. I am not ready to start a family. We haven't really had time to just be husband and wife in my opinion. My husband is worried about his age, which I think is silly. He is 7 years older than me (I'm 29), & he thinks he is getting too old to just be starting a family. I want to wait at least a year from the time I move before we begin trying for a family.

We can't find a compromise on the situation at all! I don't know what to do. I don't want to have children just to make him happy, but I also don't want him unhappy for a year while waiting on me. Any suggestions on how we can find some middle ground??

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