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Silent Screams

by Shanita Davis
(Cola, S.C. U.S.A.)

When I first met my boyfriend, it was about three years ago. Everything was going well at first. Later on in the relationship when he got angry, he would yell at me using profanity, call me out my name, and ridicule me in public. He has chocked me out several times, slapped me, punched me, and he says it's all my fault because if I didn't p*** him off then I wouldn't have to worry about getting hit.

I will never know why I choose to stay with him after all these bad things he has done to me. Every time the abuse has happened, I have looked in the mirror and blamed my self for letting this happen and still deciding to stay with him.

I am going to leave him. But I guess thinking of all the good things he does keeps me from thinking about the bad.

Ladies: if you are going or have gone through this, please give me some advice because I am hurting and silently crying inside. :)

Sincerely,

Hurt Soul




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Silent Screams

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Jul 02, 2010
Leave Him
by: Anonymous

I am a man. My ex wife has used those same techniques to belittle and control me. It gets to the point where you don't think you are worth anything anymore. Self esteem gets crushed and you feel worthless. You are not worthless. You are a child of God and should be treated as such!

It's funny how after the pain passes we only want to remember the good things, the good times. We push to the back of our minds all the bad things that are said and done in hopes that they would just go away and never return. But, they ALWAYS return if the abuser does not get help. And why would they? They are getting EVERYTHING they want!

Good luck I will say a prayer for you.

Mar 06, 2010
hey... I've been there
by: Anonymous

I was in a bad relationship for four years. I loved him and still care about him and I saw the good in him that I thought no one else could see and one day I realized I did not want my kids to think his behavior was okay. so I left. a year went by and I cried all the time and missed him; even thought he could change and maybe I should take him back...... and then finally I met someone else. I thought I could never love this guy like I loved my husband but I didn't want to ba alone anymore so I started seeing him. we've been together for three years now. He loves my kids and me. He's respectful of my space and privacy. I couldn't be happier. I was suicidal for a while because I thought life had to be hard.

Any way: no one is ever supposed to hurt another person no matter how mad they are.... you deserve better and you need to think about what would happen to your baby if this guy got you pregnant.. after that, even if you leave, he'll have rights.

Best of luck to you

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