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Wife says I have a child with someone else.

by Scott
(Pennsylvania )

Apparently according to my wife I had a child with another woman about 15 years ago. I do know The woman in question, I have been good friends with her parents growing up, but I have never spent any time with her, I have never done anything but talk a gradual hello in passing. I have known her parents for over 30 years they had a business that I worked for them a few years. They have helped us out with whatever we needed in a pinch and are good people.


I’m pretty sure someone said something to my wife to make her think such things. She says that she wants a Paternity test to believe me. I haven’t seen or talked to this woman in probably over 10 years, she is married with 3 kids. I couldn’t bring myself to ask her for a test mostly because I am embarrassed for what my wife thinks, and what if this causes friction in her marriage. What should I do.

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