To marry, or not to marry, that is the topic

by Edie
(Ohio)

My boyfriend and I Love each other very much. We have each been divorced 3 times, including his 1st being my older sister. He still wants to get married, but not for a year or so, just to make sure it will stick, so to speak. I will marry him if that is what he truly wants, but for me, it's just a piece of paper for the rest of the world.

I know we are committed to each other, and we've had strong feelings for each other since before he married my sister almost 50 years ago. His kids think he's crazy for moving 1800 miles to live with me. My kids are very supportive. I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life, and I think I may have saved him from drinking himself to death in a loveless marriage.

My query is this: Considering all we've been through, and where we are now, do we get the piece of paper just to keep others from judging us?