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Advice needed for an idiot.

by Anthony
(Cambs)

Hi all I’m in a bit of a dilemma and need some advice.


I recently ended a 7 year relationship out of impulse because we was stuck in a routine and we was constantly arguing and it wasn’t doing neither of us any good.
We have been apart for about 8 weeks now and we recently started talking again and things have been great.
We want to try and work it out because we generally do love each other but because of me walking out with no reason given because we was having a difficult time and I done the cowardly thing and ran away from the problem.
She says that she doesn’t know if she can ever trust me again.
I understand she is hurting and we both now live apart.
Has anybody got any advice on how I can get her to start to trust me again?
I know it’s going to take time and I’m willing to take as long as is needed.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Many thanks

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