What is an Emotional Affair?
“An emotional affair happens when you put the bulk of your emotions into the hands of somebody outside your marriage,” according to M. Gary Neuman, author of Emotional Infidelity. You may be talking with your spouse - about kids, car pool arrangements, bills, etc. – but you’re not sharing with him. Your innermost thoughts and interesting personal experiences are being shared with someone else.
The more you share with someone other than your spouse, the more your marriage suffers. According to noted infidelity researcher Shirley Glass, 82% of emotional affairs happen with someone who was at first “Just a friend.”
Signs of an Emotional Affair
You’ve probably crossed the line if you…
What can I do to lessen the likelihood of having or continuing an affair?
If you find yourself in this situation and live in the Greater Phila. area,
Jennifer McCarron a call at215-361-7654.
Here are some great resources:
"Not Just Friends” by Shirley P. Glass
"Emotional Infidelity" by M. Gary Neuman
"How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About It" by Dr. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, Ph.D.
Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist
418 Stump Rd., Montgomeryville, PA 18936
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