Advice needed

by anonymous

Hi, hoping someone can give me some good advice.

My partner of 7 years and I have been having some relationship difficulties. I found out yesterday that he’s been texting and calling a “friend” in another city who he met on Twitter. Apparently this woman is quite sick and he’s been offering support to her.

My problem is, he kept this a secret from me. He met her briefly at the airport last year and didn’t tell me.

I understand that he’s being supportive as that’s the kind of man he is. He swears there is no romantic involvement.

I’m feeling annoyed because he kept it from me, also he’s been discussing our relationship issues with her.

This hurts because he doesn’t communicate with me.
I’m trying to decide if this is a deal breaker or am I overreacting?

Thanks everyone x

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