Am Confused and Devastated

by Bukola

Am a married woman and I got married June 2011. Exactly 3 months after my wedding, my husband traveled to USA for his MSc. Since then I haven't seen him. We kept talking on phone and he kept promising to come home for the past 4 months now.

Lately I notice that there is no cordial relationship between us anymore. I don't feel anything for him. There is nothing like connectivity. I told him this but he said we will work it out.

Again, I discovered that he doesn't want to come home again. He's so desperate of staying there. I tried to go and meet him but it's just too expensive. Now I am stuck here with loneliness. Please help.

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Dec 21, 2011
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