Am I being unreasonable?

by anonymous

My cell phone is on mute due to the nature of my job. I forget to turn the ringer back on after work and so I keep it on silent with a light feature that lights up when someone calls.

Sometimes I miss calls however it is not too often and I will always call back within the hour. This upsets my husband.

I rarely have time for anything f outside of work or family. And so last weekend I opted to take my oldest daughter to a theme park. I talked to my husband and text him about two to three times during the early part of the day. My last call to him was at lunch.

He called me at 4:30 and again at 5:45. I missed both calls- we were having too much fun. I checked my phone around 6:15 and called him back immediately and text “what happened?”. He refused to answer me.

The next day he gave me the cold shoulder and when pressed said he feels like I don’t have consideration for him. Is he being reasonable given the circumstances?

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