Am I just being paranoid?

by Naomi
(Houston)

I met my husband online 9 years ago. We started chatting and flirting with each other. I saw him doing that with other women too, so I didn't take what we were doing seriously. Finally, after 3 years we decided to get exclusive, though we weren't living in the same country. So it was a long distance relationship.

In the beginning of our relationship, he cheated on me with another woman. I found out when I first visited him. He confessed and asked me to forgive him. To cut a long story short, I forgave him and 3 years later we got married. We're now living together and at first it was good. But I started noticing that he is still chatting with other women online, though it wasn't flirting and he tells the women he's married. It annoys me cause they send him messages almost everyday to check on him, some even say they are interested in him. Even though he tells them he's not interested, it still bothers me. I wonder why he keeps accepting their friend requests, while he knows he I hate it cause I've told him so. He even send them inbox messages wishing them happy birthday.

I feel like I can't put up with it anymore and I'm thinking about divorcing him, cause I find it so disrespectful. After the cheating, I haven't been the same and I find all those interactions with other women suspicious.

Am I paranoid? Am I exaggerating? Or should I leave?