Am I justified?

by tiredaf

Hello there. I have a problem I have been struggling with for about the last 6 or 7 years. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. We have an 11 year old daughter who is the center of our world.

Here is my problem. My wife's parents are very pushy people and constantly overstep their boundaries. They over shadow me when it comes to decisions about my daughter and speak on what she can and cannot do which really irritates me to a point which has caused arguments between my wife and I. I have been wanting to move for the last 6 years and take our family to the next level. But here we are still stuck in a little community of about 250 people where there is no future for us or our daughter.

I feel like I am talking to a wall when trying to explain this to my wife. Its very frustrating. We have been struggling with money problems throughout our marriage and she went and got a credit card about a year ago and couldn't even make one payment on it. It got cancelled just like everything else she has gotten. To me it is sickening and I am so tired of getting no where with it. I am ready to leave all of this stress behind me but I only have 1 thing holding me back. ..... My beautiful daughter.

Do I stay here for her sake and settle for less than what I believe I deserve, and keep growing bitter? Are my reasons for leaving justified? Will my soft spoken 11 year old daughter be ok? Thank you so much for your time. It is greatly appreciated.

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