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Am i over-reacting? Please help..

We have been married for about 6 years and have a 5 year old daughter together. My husband has a lot of female friends and i am usually fine with that. At his current workplace, he and a female colleague, who is also married, are good friends. I have never met her in person.


Some 6 months back she asked him out for a movie night..just both of them alone. I was really disturbed by this and told husband that she can come along with our whole family for the movie but not both of them alone. My husband was upset over this and finally decided not to go for the movie. She kept asking him for the movie night a couple of times again..anyways he excused himself out of the situation every time.He didn't go just because he didn't want me to get hurt...otherwise he was happy to go!!

And now she has come up with some new plans.. her grandma is having a petting zoo some 4 hours drive away and she wants our family to go along with her to visit the place... so that my daughter can enjoy! Funny thing is her husband or her kids, who are living with her, are not coming. I somehow just don't have a good feel about this woman though i have never met her.. I don't feel like going with her while my husband is so excited for this trip..

I am hurt that my husband wants to spend time with this woman. Am i just being old fashioned or am i being jealous? Am i overreacting? What is the right thing to do?

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You are not over-reacting. There may be the beginnings of an emotional affair her. There is a great book on this called "Not Just Friends." I suggest you and your husband read it, and perhaps talk with a marriage counselor.

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