Am I wrong for feeling bothered by this?

by anonymous
(Memphis, TN. USA)

OK, so I've been married to my husband for almost a year now and we've been together for almost 3 years. He has 4 kids from a previous marriage, I have 2 and we have 1 new-born together. Since I've had the baby I've noticed him watching old home videos of when his kids were younger and his ex wife is also in the videos.

Am I wrong to feel bothered by him watching the videos? It's more so that the ex wife is in them, I understand that he may be just reminiscing about when the kids were younger, but part of me thinks he's missing the 'old life' he had with the ex..

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