Break Up

by Kate
(UEA Dubai)

i almost broke up with my fiance 1 week ago because of my son, which ls not his. The reason is i told him how my son has started to do things which are worrying. So my fiance started to accuse me of spoiling my son and an argument rose up.

i went home. i took one glass of wine, which he ls against. Later he ask me to see hm and he smelled the wine. i told him the reason was because we had argued and he texted me that our relationship was over. i want to drink something so as to sleep.

To him, forgiving ls like a dream. He told me that he will never trust me again. For two weeks i have been trying to bring back our relationship, but in vain.

Two days ago, he found some pornographic movie on my laptop. Which 4 sure was a big mistake because of downloading series, soap operas, movies, songs etc. So when he found that in my laptop, I was also shocked to see it. i tried to explain to him i didn't do anything like that, crying from my heart, and said he never believed me until today.

i love him so much. i want him to be the father of my kids. He knows but he said he'll never trust me. So tell me what to do. Can i still go on with him without him trusting me?

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Sep 15, 2011
Jealous Boyfriend
by: Anonymous

I almost broke up with my boyfriend too, because he was accusing me that I was cheating on him. He is such a jealous boyfriend and sometimes I just want to let go of him.

I am so confused since I also want to be with him but he just won't change. I don't even know if he would ever change for the better.

Jul 11, 2011
Break up
by: Anonymous

Time will heal the wounds...

May 29, 2011
Hmmm . . .
by: Anonymous

A relationship can only exist when BOTH parties involved WANT it.

Sounds like he has a real trust issue and actually appears to be quite controlling.

If you really want this relationship to work, YOU MUST TAKE A STEP BACK, stop begging. If he truly wants it too, HE WILL COME AROUND.

He understands how you feel, now he must decide how he feels, the ball is in his court at the moment.

As much as you want to makes this "right", he must decide if he wants things "right". Sit back and relax, do nothing.

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