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Compassion and Love

by Donna
(Indiana)

Last night I asked my husband if he Loves me. He said to me yes I love you. I then asked him if he could tell me more often that he loved me. We have been married 37 years and he said "That is silly". I said to him, I know that you don't require this but I do. I need to hear the words. You used to freely say the words and now you don't and it is very nice to hear it. I said to him that the fact that he thinks it's silly is not important, if I feel that need, he should be happy to oblige. What are your thoughts?

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