by Jacquie
(Philadelphia )

My husband has addictive behaviors that I have come to accept. I am currently attending Gam-anon, working on my healing and recovery. My husband is not doing anything but working, gambling and staying out until he decides to bathe, watch tv or sleep.

I tried to have a responsible conversation, but he accuses me of all our marital problems. Our home is marital property and I have offered a reasonable buy out. I perceive he chooses to be difficult because he can. I live in a state that does not allow a divorce petition until after 1 year of separation.

I am disappointed but realistic. Addiction has wrecked us, our family and marriage. However finally realizing our situation is helping me to regain who I am acceptance and gratitude, leading to healing in mind, body and spirit 😐

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