Don't know what to do...

by Anonymous

So this past Sunday my husband and I went to dinner at my parents. My sister brought her friend and introduced us to her for the first time. (strictly a friend, she isn't gay). So anyway, the next day Monday, I get a text from my sister asking if my husband had added her friend on snapchat. After we texted back and forth, it became clear my husband added her on Facebook, messaged her on there to get her snapchat, thanking her with a winky face, and then added her on snapchat and sent her a picture of himself(not inappropriate, just a picture of him in the mirror). I was obviously concerned and brought it up to my husband he said he didn't know why he added her and had no guilty intentions. However, he deleted everything before I could see it. My sisters friend had took a screen shot and the conversation on FB was simply, do you have snapchat and thank you much with a winky face when she gave it to him. Then as I said the only conversation on snapchat was the picture. I don't know what to think or do. Would this have gone further if she didn't say anything? Why did he delete it if he meant nothing by it? Im embarrassed that my sister now thinks my husband was trying to flirt with her friend. HELP!

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