by anonymous
I am a currently in a serious relationship with my girlfriend who was previously married for 15 years before getting divorced 4 years ago. She has 3 children from her previous marriage and I have never been married before and have never had children of my own. We actually knew each other as acquaintances early in high school, but never dated. I had just gotten out of a relationship several years ago when my current girlfriend was going through her divorce. We reconnected through Facebook and things moved relatively fast from there. We have been living together for the past few years (I moved into her home--yes, the same one her ex-husband used to live in--when she asked me to). As many relationships go, everything was great in the beginning with our relationship. I did know what I was getting myself into and willingly got involved with a divorced mother of 3. As things have gone on, our relationship has certainly had its ups and downs. Though many relationships have ups and downs, our downs seem to be really down (i.e. mistrust, name calling, even physical abuse--and not by me if you know what I mean). My sense of self respect has told me to leave the relationship many times (and I know she has thought the same many times), but we've always managed to stay together. I think deep down I do it for the sake of the kids (and her) because I don't want to abandon them like their father/ex-husband basically did. I have become a central figure in the kids' lives since their biological father doesn't have anything to do with them. However, I can say that I have become increasingly unhappy with my relationship
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