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Feel Like I’m in a shared relationship 24/7

by Jay
(Phoenix, Az, USA)

Hello! I’m here to ask opinions, help or advice on how to handle this or maybe just over thinking it all.


I feel like my relationship/marriage is always overclouded with my husband always focused on other things besides me, our relationship and at times family. He constantly has his father with us dedicating all of his time to activities with him and if it’s not his father it’s friends always at our house. Weekend comes Around and I can expect my father in law or a friend of my husband’s at our house.

I feel there’s never any dedicated to our family let alone me or my relationship. I feel like I’ve always felt with this but with our recent move and living on the outskirts of town with the intention of limiting this kind of stuff would help seems to only have increased it more.

What is one to do? Or is this just me?

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