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Financial and communication difficulties

by Valentina
(Syosset )

Just to start with a question- has anybody heard about a woman paying for her own wedding ring?? Briefly - I proposed to my husband because he was always saying as a fun fact that he will only marry again if he is asked for- having previous 3 marriages..


I have a significant bigger income than he has so paying for everything wedding related and beyond was not very hard in the beginning.. my husband gave up his job as a contractor and he started some other business that was a failure- flipping houses and real estate things.. only things he does now is Uber driving .. he works a lot on our home for improvement but that’s it.. all his expenses end up on my credit card including expenses for his 2 kids from previous marriage and when I ask for some return of those unplanned expenses he asked me for the money I supposedly saved by not hiring an outside handyman.. total disaster.. needless to say I pay 2 mortgages, bills, his car insurance, health insurance , home improvement, out events, saving for college and my teen girl car.. finances. are almost a tabu subject for us, same as his drinking habits or health issues like weight loss.. I feel like I’m sinking ..

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