Ghosted by the therapist

by Anonymous

I was seeing this therapist for about 3-4 months before class every Thursday morning. When the semester ended, I was going to ask her if we can see each other less frequently as I was an hour commute from her and didn't want to travel there for 45 min and go back (also I was less than impressed with her at this point).

We never got to that conversation because I unexpectedly missed a session due to having to work very late the night before and oversleeping. I very rarely cancelled and I was never late. I emailed her saying I was so sorry and can we please reschedule. She told me to call her which I did and she didn't answer. That was the last I heard from her; for about 2 months.

Two months later she is emailing me telling me I need to pay for the missed session etc. I was shocked and appalled bc I was very hurt when she stopped talking to me. I wrote her back saying she can forget the payment bc I am not at fault--I asked to reschedule, I emailed and I called. What else was I supposed to do?? I told her she is the one responsible for making appointments and I was not just going to show up at her house. She again waits two months to email me back.

This time her response was a long-winded narrative of how she can't believe how I am acting and she is soooo shocked at what I am saying and that this is not the ethics of an aspiring social worker and then she continued to use things I told her in session against me!

Am I nuts or is this highly unethical? I didn't answer her bc why would I at this point? But she recently just forwarded me the same email again when she didn't get a response from me. I feel harassed and belittled by this woman.