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He Wants Children

by anonymous

My husband and I are 10 years apart. We were quickly taken with each other and had a lightning marriage, and we brushed over the topic of whether we wanted kids. He firmly wants, while I might want them someday, but not right now.

Ever since we got married a year ago he’s been pressuring me to get pregnant, before he gets too old (he’s in his late thirties), as well as to please his parents. I’ve been trying to go along with it, going to doctors and taking supplements and such, but if I’m honest with myself there’s not a single part of me that wants to be a mother right now.

I love my husband and I’m scared to bring this up (again) because it might be a deal-breaker for him, and it was a source of our previous arguments a year ago. What should I do?

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