by Angela
(Sydney, australia )

I've been with my husband for 11 years, married for 10. He used to be so loving and thoughtful but over the years he's become more and more abusive with his language. He says i push his buttons and make him angry. We both have chronic illnesses and i struggle to look after myself. He has been encouraging for years but it comes across as controlling not caring. He puts himself first and i put him first naturally even though he's told me not to. I have low self esteem and haven't made healthy boundaries for us.

Our marriage has ended up full of contempt, anger and no more love. Every time it feels like we are moving forward we argue and go back to square one. Any advice is welcome thank you xxx

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