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Homemade sex tape

by Tim
(Fairfax, Ca)

My ex-wife and I made a mutual home sex movie when we were still together, which I still have a digital copy of on my computer. We have been separated now for about six years.


I have been been in an amazing relationship for about the last three years with my current girlfriend. Anyway, she discovered (and watched) the movie recently and is furious. She thinks it is disrespectful to her that I have it, that it shows that I'm not over my ex (very not true), and wants me to delete it.

What do you think?

Dear Tim.... Unless you keep pictures of former girlfriends hanging on your wall, I would delete it. It will prove your devotion to your latest girlfriend, and prevent any distribution over the internet.

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