How many times does my husband deserve space?

by Barbara

My husband walked out on me the day after Christmas and was gone for 2 weeks living with another female. He threatened divorce every day and it was a horrible experience.

He had an epiphany one day and came back saying he was sorry, he didn't realize what he had until it was gone. I let him back in no problem, we have two young children and have been together for ten years. We got in our first argument since that separation and now he is saying the fighting is a broken record with us and that he is annoyed and doesn't want to do this anymore. He is staying at his moms "for a few days" to decide what he wants.

I don't deserve this, however I'm not ready to threaten a permanent separation, when that's not what I want. I want to fix our communication issues. I have always stood by his side, and he uses that against me, knowing that I won't go anywhere, he is too comfortable! Help!!

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