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How to ensure equal contribution to parenting and household chores.

by M
(Guam)

I work. My spouse does not. It has not always been that way, but it is our current situation. We have two children. One is five and one is two. The five year old has school M-F, 8-3.

We are struggling right now as a couple because my spouse feels as though I am not contributing enough around the house and not assisting enough with errands/shopping and bringing our five year old to school. I feel as though most of the chores could be handled during the time that I am at work. (I leave home around seven in the morning and get back home anytime between 3 and 5 in the afternoon.
What can we do to establish a balance?

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