Hurt and Confused

by Esther

I'm 60 and husband is 63 we have known each other for almost 30 years. A month ago I found out he was using credit cards and ordering online lingerie for a 30 year old sales rep at his work for a period of 3 months, also in Dec he paid for a motel room but he said he never used because she stood him up. Jan he's still buying lingerie for her. Feb. I finally blew up, he said nothing ever happened and he was just being dumb and he's sorry, he just wants us back to normal.

We have been arguing for about a month. he wants me to let go and not talk about it but I just can't control myself sometimes. I'm so confused, hurt and I don't trust him right now but I do love him.

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