by JL
(Grand Rapids, MI)
About 4 years ago my wife and I had been married 20 years and we were talking about growing up. I made a comment that my older brother got all of the girls back then and my wife responded that "it was a good thing he was married before we met". She saw that it hurt right away and said sorry for saying that; however, the damage was done and to this day I believe that it is true. I tried to have a discussing with her that day about it and she shut me down.
Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist
418 Stump Rd., Montgomeryville, PA 18936
215-813-8633
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