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Husband buying other women drinks

by hays f
(uk)

I give my husband a lot of freedom. He goes and does what he like a lot of the time and has many hobbies. I on the other hand am more than happy spending time and making memories with our children. We are both the same age and work full time but have different ideas on how to spend our weekends. Mine with the children his taking part in one of his many hobbies.


Last night he met up for drinks with two male friends that he has not seen for a while due to lock down. I thought nothing of it except for the fact it was only suppose to be a few and he didn't walk in till 12.15 even though he had work the next day. In the morning he told me how drunk they all got and how he had to carry his drunken friend home. Then just dropped in how strange it was that two women showed up that one of his other married friends seemed to know. They joined them in the apparently huge table and my husband spoke with the other make and had nothing to do with the women and his other friend who was talking.

After a day at work thinking about it I brought up about the women again and was reminded how they were the other end and he didn't talk. But then mentioned how his friend bought them drinks. Which made me question if he did and oh yes he had. Of course it was because it was the decent thing to do as they had bought him one. He is a married man that should of just been going to meet two male friends. But then apparently sat on table with two women not talking to them but they all bought each other drinks.

I trust that nothing happened but I feel that it is disrespectful to me as his wife to sit in a pub buying drinks for other women that he apparently isn't talking to and wants nothing to do with.
Being annoyed is me overreacting. Am I?

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