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Husband just doesn’t seem to care

by Lydia
(Manchester )

My husband likes to play video games a lot. So much so that he has played all day long today, whilst I have looked after our 1 year old. I have asked if he could join in with a few activities and he said no.


I became upset this evening and tearful as he has barely spoke 5 words to me all day,yet I haven’t done any thing wrong. He asks me “why am I crying” yet proceeds to play his video game. I said “it doesn’t matter” because he hates it when I say to him I don’t feel loved or shown affection to by him, so I try not to ever mention it anymore. Some days he’s much more attentive and present but times like this are hard and lonely and I’m not sure what to do.

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