Husband not supportive

by Mary
(Bethesda, Maryland )

Hello, I had a confrontation today with a fellow worker who has been bullying me for many years. Today she was very aggressive, yelling at me and she was so close to me as she yelled that I thought she was going to hit me. I kept my calm and helped her with what she needed with a calm voice. This was the first time I was able to record her because her boss doesn’t believe me and neither does my husband.

When I showed the recording to my husband, all he could say was “no comment”. He later said I should learn the power of forgiveness... all I can think is why would I want to be married to someone like him? We have been married for 22 years and I have never felt his support. I have been working with this Bully person for 12 years and I am getting tired of not having any support from my husband. I am the bread winner so obviously he doesn’t want me to lose my job. He works from home but half time.

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