Husband sleeping on the couch, every, single. night

by Monika
(Piscataway NJ USA)

Hi everyone,

I am new to this group. And hoping/praying that someone will be able to help. If not, I am just happy to share. I have been married over 2 years now. Me and my husband never had a great sexual relationship. We had our ups and downs but for the most part, I felt unwanted and always found myself questioning why not more.

That being said, my husband has sleeping problems. He cannot sleep without watching tv. Every single evening, after we put our baby to bed, he lays down on the couch, starts watching tv and passes out. He never ever ever comes to bed. I sleep by myself every single night and wake up to a cold bed and nobody next to me. It hurts me so much. Makes me feel lonely, single and unwanted. I told him many many times, He says he has sleep issues. We have a tv in the bedroom, but he doesn't seem to choose watching that one because he knows I hate going to sleep with tv on.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to live a life like this where I feel I am missing something all the time. Having a baby of course does not help the situation, we are both tired but I feel if we had intimate moments where we are next to each other, things would just happen naturally.
With him being away from me all the time, it's almost impossible to see/want each other. And it's destroying us, slowly and painfully....

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