Husband wants to send money to His Parent’s Maid and Hid it from me!

by Sanjana

My Husband is thinking of sending money to the maid of his parents every month…. didn’t tell me and when I came to know from some other source….. he said “I would have eventually told you!”I told him that he broke my trust…. he tells me hiding is NOT breech of trust.

He said he hid it from me because he was afraid.

Do you think this is okay to do?

His brother suggested doing that and he agreed,didn’t even discuss with me.

I don’t have a problem to help parents in need,but his parents are already good,no lack of money,just that his Dad is a greedy man,always whining about money and doesn’t care about anything else!

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