I don't know if I can forgive her

ok so for a few weeks leading up to Christmas I thought my wife was flirting with somebody ( always secretive with her phone, every time I went near her she'd shut it off that kind of thing)

when I confronted her she said her boss was texting flirting with her and told me she had to him to back off.but the secrecy still continued,
I decided if our marriage was going to work I had to trust her.

however we were invited to a new years eve party at a friend of mines house. my wife got extremely drunk and started to make a pass with some man there right in front of me. to say I was livid is an understatement. new years day was tense to say the least. eventually we spoke about it she said she'd no recollection of doing it and she was really sorry.

when I next met with my fiend he told me somebody else told him she tried it on with another guest.
now after 16 years together I don't know if I can trust her again

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