I need help on what to do

by anonymous

My wife and I have been married for almost 4 years, she told me she has been feeling like roommates and unhappy. I wasn’t communicating with her that I have been under a lot a stress with work, and I was just focused at the light at the end of the tunnel.

She left to go to college and I was waiting for my job to move me. She went home to hang out with her family and friends, she started catching feelings for her friend. She is now confused and she was talking about divorce but we decided to separate because she is confused on what to do. She doesn’t know what she wants.

I’m in love with her but I part of me just wants to call it so she can go explore

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Eugene Kayser, lic. Marriage & Family Therapist

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