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I shut down

by Ck
(US)

My husband is telling me I am hurting him when I shut down emotionally. I know its not healthy but I cant stop. We have an awesome relationship and communicate great. He stayed out with friends one night and he left while i was asleep. No note, left his phone, locked the house before he left. We had an argument the night before over a poor joke he made. He is usually funny, this had daggers behind it i found hurtful. I had the thought, i need to brace myself if he doesn't come home. He showed up late, but i can't get past my initial emotional shutdown to even here him out. 2 days later i still can't stop even though he says it's hurting him. I know its unproductive, i just can't open up.

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