I want my husband and I to move to my home state.

My husband and I met in his home state of Texas 10 years ago. We spent 5 years there, then moved to Tennessee where we’ve spent the last 5 years. When we moved, his entire family including his parents, sister and grandparents moved to Tennessee as well. Along with some cousins that already live here. I love his family very much, and we’ve had 10 great years with them.

However, my whole family is in my home state of Maine. Parents, two siblings, my nieces and nephew. I haven’t lived near them since 2008. My parents are getting older (my dad suffered a heart attack a few years back, as well as falling causing a head injury.)

I am wanting desperately to move back to Maine. I want some years with my parents before it’s too late. He will absolutely not budge on the subject. He says he would hate it there, and he would be angry every day if we lived there. He’s a great husband and I love him with all my heart. What do I do?

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