by Sarah
(Somewhere )

The day I died inside...

He brought me flowers again. I should be happy, right? Well, I would have, if it wouldn't have been for the million time it happens after a fight.

Why we fought? Well, we have a kid. We are married for about four years now, and our kid has two and a half years. And every time I try to teach something to our kid, it's not only that he doesn't support me, but I don't know how, he manages to find every little thing I do wrong and make me look like an idiot in front of our kid. What happens? The kid stops listening to me, disrespects me because, well, "why would I listen to you and respect you, if dad doesn't?"...
What I hate the most is the fact that I know he loves the kid and wants the best for him, and he is even apologizing to me for this... But he is apologizing just to do it again the very next moment...

I don't know what to do... I tried to talk to him about it but he is usually saying that I'm overreacting or I just want to pick a fight. And when he realizes that I'm upset, really upset, he apologizes and brings flowers... I really want to hit him in the head with his flowers...

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