In-laws and the gun

by David
(North Dakota )

I have been married 15 years. For the most part my wife and I get have a healthy relationship. When my wife's parents are visiting or shortly after we tend to argue. On the positive side they are a 4 hour drive and I do not see them often.

My mother in law complains...alot.I agreed with my wife not to say anything, just ignore the her comments. She is concerned if i say anything they will no longer visit but at this point i would prefer if they didn't. Mother in laws comments range from disrespecting our house, to my line of work to the car i drive.

To make a long story short: my father in law did not make it up this time only my mother-in-law. He had made arrangements for my mother-in-law to pick up a gun While she was visiting. While I was at work she made arrangements for a complete stranger to meet at our house and do gun sale. Apparently she didn't feel like driving to the sellers residence.

At this point I feel like I have To say something. I don't want to be disrespected in my own house anymore and this deal with a firearm makes my blood boil. My wife again suggested to suck it up for a few more days while she visits.

Any suggestions how to handle the situation?
Thank you

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