Inter cultural and religion marriage

by anonymous

I'm Christian married to a Muslim man. Before our wedding, I made it clear to him that I will not convert to Islam and he agreed.

We were so happy during our first year but things change after that. He demanded me to wear clothes from neck to toe (but not hijab) even during summer and we always argue because of that. I compromise by changing my clothing style but he wants more. Now, he wants me to use a shawl always. Another thing is the food. He don't want me to eat any food that there's no halal code in it. We cannot even eat out.

I talked to him many times that we must understand each other as we have different culture and religion but he was so close minded. He never appreciated my sacrifices. He just want me to change.

I'm so frustrated, exhausted and unhappy. I was trying to compromise everything. And sometimes if I don't, he says that I don't even listen to him which a wife should do. Now, he wants me to cut my communication with my male friends in social media which Ive known before I met him. One thing more, he always drags my family when we fight. He says I have same attitude with my mom. For the record, he hates my mom.

Can someone give me any advice?

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