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Is he cheating?

We were having septic tank problems, so we lifting the lid and blew the lines out. The next day I walk outside and look down and see a condom floating in it. We have lived at our house for 4 years, and had the tank pumped out right after we moved in.


My husband could care less about it, when I say something he keeps saying it has to be from before we lived here and changes subject. He even suggested our daughter.

I am losing my mind, I feel like if it wasn’t his he would want to know where it came from. Or is it normal to not worry about it. Please help I’m so lost right now

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