Is it just in my imagination.

by Annie
(GA)

So do I see a marriage counselor, a therapist or a shrink?

I'm so confused in my 31 year marriage I'm beginning to think I'm actually going crazy. I'm second guessing all my decisions if I can even make one. For a long time now any decision I make ends up the wrong one as my husband would subtly note. Or I do something he'd ask me to do and I can honestly say he has redone everyone. This is in reference yo redoing somethings to a house we just bought. Anyway, I try to talk to him and tell him how this affects me and he tells me I'm wrong. How in the hell can what I'm feeling be wrong. So I'm thinking okay maybe I'm over reacting. So I'm not sure how to proceed on that subject anymore or just get over it.

The real issue I'm having and I apologizes for beating around the bush is that he hasn't slept in the same bed with me in probably 10 years. I've asked him so many times to come sleep with me and he never does. So I try not to ask anymore. However, one year ago we moved to a different state and he promised things were would get better. Well he now has his own room at the other end of the house. So looks like that ain't gonna happen.

Now what really got me today and why I'm writing is that I told him tonight that I was going to start locking my door, the room I'm in is right next to the backdoor, because I don't feel really safe. His reply was "that sounds like a reasonable plan". I'll also note that I did really want to hear what he had to say so maybe I was baiting him. I guess I deserved his reply. Basically I don't feel any emotion or love coming from him. Tried to talk and he says there's no problems. Again, is it all in my head. Thinking too much. IDK Thought?