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Is it okay for my wife to...

by Josh
(MONROEVILLE, Pennsylvania, USA )

I don’t want to muddy the waters per se, so I’ll skip other details. I’ll try keeping this as brief and unbiased as possible. Thank you very much your advice/opinion and your time.


Today my wife left our house and stayed gone for most of the day. During this time she accused me of going through her purse and taking “something”. I emphatically told her that “I didn’t“, many times. She kept telling me that “she didn’t believe me” and she “knows” that I’m not telling the truth. I did tell her the truth. Now she has came home and is acting more on the normal side. I repeatedly asked her “what was it that you accused me of taking”. She responded with “I don’t need to tell you anything I don’t want to tell you” and then said again that she “knows” I’m not telling the truth (which, to her, isn’t the same as calling me a liar...). She keeps reiterating that she doesn’t “have to tell me anything” when I ask what I supposedly took.

I could take this many different directions but I, for once, would love just to focus on one issue and know if I’m wrong. After going through this, am I entitled to know what it is that she accused me of taking? And is her not telling me, disrespectful?

Again, thank you for your time and comments.

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