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Is this female into my husband?

by Anonymous

Is it weird that a single female friend of my husband’s handed him the Sex at Dawn book as she was leaving our house? She was a coworker of my husband’s and stayed in our trailer for a few nights (I was away at work for some of those nights but our kids were here) when their jobs were over since she’s basically a drifter and had no where else to go (before her next job which she promptly quit). There were sentences underlined in the book about how marriages are hyposexual and polygamy is the way to go. He never read the book (never opened it) nor have I (I just flipped through it and the underlined sentences caught my attention). I find it disturbing and very suggestive that she would like to have sex with him.


Also, she occasionally will text him (non-sexual stuff). Should he let her know that this is really bothering me (that she gave him that book)? She seems to be “stable” now with a decent job, so part of me wants him to let her know how I feel, then part of me wants to just leave this alone. Thoughts?

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